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What To Do With My Wedding Dress

I love my wedding dress. Like, just look at that lace. It is pink, dramatic, covered in lace and sparkles. My maid of honor described it as me in dress form. This past weekend I was at a wedding for a high school friend, which means after five months my beloved dress made its way from my parents’ house to mine. This was our last friend wedding for a while, half our group is still single. But it means I had…

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The Acceptance of Interfaith Marriage

Recently JTA published this article about the Rabbis at B’nai Jeshurun, an influential non-denominational New York City synagogue, deciding they would officiate the weddings of interfaith couples who commit to raising Jewish children and having a Jewish home. On the heels of that announcement, the Jewish Theological Seminary committed themselves to their ban on clergy officiating interfaith marriages. While the B’nai Jeshurun announcement wasn’t perfect by any means and proves we still have a long way to go in supporting…

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A Life Update

  In a bit of personal news…. WE GOT MARRIED!! Part of our interfaith journey has been figuring out what pieces of each of us we bring with us. My families’ marriage traditions were reflected in having a unity candle set. We used a glass with shamrocks for one of them.   Our chuppah included the tallitots of J’s grandfathers who both passed before we married.  We had an amazing ketubah which reflected both of us with traditional Hebrew on…

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Community Shabbat

  Every so often our congregation puts together dinners of different parts of the community. They’re always hosted by someone in the community who cooks up an amazing meal and there’s great conversation. Sometimes they’re just for empty nesters, or our TRIBE group of 20’s and 30’s, families with mitzvah kids in the coming year,  and sometimes they’re open to all. I love my TRIBE dinners, but there’s something to be said about the open ones. I say this because…

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Shabbat

I’m secretly a little bit jealous of J’s siblings and cousins. None of them are interfaith. So when one of them just plans to do Shabbat, it’s no big deal. For us, people always see it as a thing. They get to celebrate as a family, with their children who are so solid from day one in where they belong. The oldest, at three-years old sings HaMotzi every time she sees bread. Every restaurant with candles and bread, she celebrates Shabbat with…

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Year Six

  Today marks the sixth year that J and I have been together. Which is crazy to think about all that has changed in those six years We lived in LA and London (briefly for both of those) We graduated college We started working and settled in one place We bought a house! (That’s a very recent one) We’ve been to more than 30 weddings together all over the globe. Two siblings have gotten married We now have six total…

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Arella Miriam

It really happened because of a wedding invitation.  It was beautiful. With their Hebrew names printed below their English ones and the script of Ani L’Dodi, v’Dodi Li on the top. I realized something in that. When J and I got married, I’d be taking that opportunity away from him. His childhood rabbi wouldn’t be able to perform the service, he’d never have his Hebrew name on his wedding invitation. And it was because of me. Since we had already found…

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The Conversion Conversation

I remember when I first told a trusted person about J six years ago. We weren’t dating yet, and her knowing how I was raised asked about his religion. When I mentioned Judaism, she bristled and told me I’d have to give up Jesus if we got married. Friends, I wasn’t even DATING this man let alone any where near marrying him! I was a 19 year old girl with a crush on a friend! But we did start dating…

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Goy Meets Boy

It all started back in 2011, when he first proposed. We were in college, barely knew each other, post house party Taco Bell proposal kinda night. Fast forward six years later and he’s proposed for real this time and we’re just four short months away from our wedding. J is Jewish. I was raised a Catholic in an Irish-Italian household. I noticed something in the past six years. There’s a lot of articles out there for interfaith couples, particularly Christian-Jewish…

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