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0 In Holidays

Celebrating Sukkot

This is our first year we actually have a backyard to celebrate Sukkot. I certainly wouldn’t have in the past where we were living. As much as I’d like to tell you we’re building a sukkah as a full experiment this year, we aren’t. A traditional celebration just doesn’t work for us right now. And not just because we’re particularly inept at the building side of the holiday. J never celebrated it as a kid except for when he was…

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0 In Marriage

A Life Update

  In a bit of personal news…. WE GOT MARRIED!! Part of our interfaith journey has been figuring out what pieces of each of us we bring with us. My families’ marriage traditions were reflected in having a unity candle set. We used a glass with shamrocks for one of them.   Our chuppah included the tallitots of J’s grandfathers who both passed before we married.  We had an amazing ketubah which reflected both of us with traditional Hebrew on…

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0 In Faith/ Family

Shabbat

I’m secretly a little bit jealous of J’s siblings and cousins. None of them are interfaith. So when one of them just plans to do Shabbat, it’s no big deal. For us, people always see it as a thing. They get to celebrate as a family, with their children who are so solid from day one in where they belong. The oldest, at three-years old sings HaMotzi every time she sees bread. Every restaurant with candles and bread, she celebrates Shabbat with…

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0 In Faith/ Holidays

A Jew-ish Lent

When I was a full-time, practicing Catholic I my favorite time of year was Lent. I’ll admit, it is odd for someone to say that they love Lent. But as a child I liked the challenge of not doing something I enjoyed.  As I got older I enjoyed having that time to reflect on what truly mattered. I also lived for Palm Sunday mass because it was really like a play and I’ve always had a bit of a flair…

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0 In Faith

When Hate is Down the Hall

I haven’t been able to write for a few days. we’re in the process of moving to our house. Which has totally taken over my life. I’ve known what I wanted my next post to be about, but I wasn’t sure how to write about it. I guess I’ll start with the fact that we didn’t put our menorah out this year in our window. We always did, but this year was different and I’m still not ok with why I felt…

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0 In Family

Year Six

  Today marks the sixth year that J and I have been together. Which is crazy to think about all that has changed in those six years We lived in LA and London (briefly for both of those) We graduated college We started working and settled in one place We bought a house! (That’s a very recent one) We’ve been to more than 30 weddings together all over the globe. Two siblings have gotten married We now have six total…

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0 In Marriage/ Wedding

Finding Our Officiant

We have a really, really great home for our faith. If you’re ever looking for an inclusive Jewish community in north central part of Connecticut, I have a great one! We found it months after moving to Connecticut from college. When we first arrived it had two wonderful, shockingly young, Rabbis. The sweetest Cantor and a community that couldn’t be beat. Three years later, there’s been some changes. One of our Rabbis moved on, our Cantor retired. So now our Rabbis…

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0 In Faith/ Family

Partner Participation

I’m a big fan of On Being Both, the blog by Susan Katz Miller. it’s helped me feel like my children aren’t going to hate me for choosing not to convert. Which is, shockingly, a real fear I have. I love reading other people’s interfaith stories. It’s amazing how what seems like a similar experience ends up so different for everyone. She wrote a great piece about the phrase intermarriage in Forward. I largely don’t take issue with non-Jew, but I know a…

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0 In Faith/ Family

Changing My Mind

With the mikvah postponed until our schedules matched I had time to think and I made a bigger decision than to convert. I decided to not finish my conversion. So close to the finish line, so close to finally being the same. Here’s the truth, the wedding suddenly was coming in under a year. And I started to think about all the changes that were expected of me as a wife. And suddenly, changing my last name to his AND changing…

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