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When Your Partner Struggles With Religious Identity

Someone once asked me if J was religious. I said, not particularly, probably is more culturally Jewish. This person (who is against interfaith relationships) immediately went on a tirade about my in-laws as parents raising a Jew. If only they had been more involved in the synagogue. If only they had made him go to a Jewish day school or a Jewish summer camp. They should have fostered more of a Jewish identity in their home. If they had been clear intermarriage was…

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What To Do With My Wedding Dress

I love my wedding dress. Like, just look at that lace. It is pink, dramatic, covered in lace and sparkles. My maid of honor described it as me in dress form. This past weekend I was at a wedding for a high school friend, which means after five months my beloved dress made its way from my parents’ house to mine. This was our last friend wedding for a while, half our group is still single. But it means I had…

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Rabbi Roundtable

The Forward has a regular segment called Rabbi Roundtable where a group of Rabbis give their opinions on a topic. Yesterday’s topic was “Is Intermarriage a Problem or Opportunity” Susan Katz Miller at On Being Both had a great response to the piece. She pointed out the sample of mostly Orthodox and Conservative Rabbis which isn’t the reality of the American Jewish landscape. She also points out the problematic use of the word “Intermarriage” and the words problem or opportunity. The…

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Interfaith Marriage is Good?

I’m a big fan of reading about other’s interfaith marriage experiences. Here’s the truth: what I write on here, what anyone tells you about their experiences, your interfaith experience is your own. Interfaith relationships involve dealing with people and family dynamics. It means waiting out as the worlds of religion change. It’s why my experience has been vastly different than two of my friends. Which leads me to a piece I read by Paul Golin on Forward. His question is: Is…

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Celebrating Sukkot

This is our first year we actually have a backyard to celebrate Sukkot. I certainly wouldn’t have in the past where we were living. As much as I’d like to tell you we’re building a sukkah as a full experiment this year, we aren’t. A traditional celebration just doesn’t work for us right now. And not just because we’re particularly inept at the building side of the holiday. J never celebrated it as a kid except for when he was…

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Yom Kippur

The sunrise and new start reminds me of the new start Yom Kippur gives us

I had a whole post written about this year’s Yom Kippur experience — how I assumed it would go. Spoiler alert: it was rough. I went to Kol Nidre services. Then I went to work where I had the hardest Yom Kippur of my life since I was, you know, actually working and not eating or drinking. Broke fast in the comfort of an edit room with all my coworkers during a last-minute meeting. None of them were fasting. All…

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Interfaith Conversation

  When I had lunch with a clergy spouse, it lead to an interfaith conversation. I can’t say I agreed with his feelings, but I understood them. New England is a weird place to move to. Especially if you move to a place that’s kind of far from a big city. J and I are lucky — we’ve made friends here because everyone we work with is a transplant. Those who aren’t in the same boat, struggle. This is how…

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The Holidays

Last year we got really, really lucky when it came to Rosh Hashanah. The holiday fell on our off days so we got be with all of J’s family. Which means it has been a year since I decided not to convert.  In the fall J and I work especially non-traditional work schedules; it’s our busiest time of year. We work nights and weekends. Starting after Labor Day celebrating Shabbat becomes out of the question since Friday is J’s busiest…

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Others Forgot Us

We had an exciting time this weekend since it was our first wedding as married people! Plus we got a side trip to the aquarium! It’s meant I’ve been spending a lot of time with my Jewish side. While I love them I think sometimes they forget we’re an interfaith couple. In the past, I would have taken this as a compliment, like I’m passing as the thing I want to be. But after everything we’ve been through I want to…

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A Hello!

It’s been a while since I wrote an intro post on here! But since we’re launching a new look — why not! My name is Erin, I’m 26 and I’m in a Jewish-Catholic Interfaith marriage. My husband (referred to as J) and I have been together for almost seven years. In that time we went to college and graduated, started our first jobs, got married and bought a house. Suffice to say, there’s been a lot of growing. We reside in…

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