Where have you been? Welcome to January 2019. I haven’t written on here for 11 months. Which isn’t surprising; a lot has changed in that time. I have a new job, we’re working on our house, and we traveled to the other side of the globe. But I’ve mostly come up with excuses on why I’m too busy to write. Isn’t that easier than writing? Making excuses for not writing. In the course of the past 11 months Jason and…
So a while back I wrote about why, even as an interfaith couple, it was still important for us to undergo genetic testing as we plan for a family. We opted to go with JScreen for our testing. Two years ago I tested through JScreen so this time we tested J. We got his results back. About three weeks after we sent the test back, J got an email. It was a genetic counselor ensuring us everything was fine but they…
J and I married four months ago and we are not ready for a child. Even though J and I are not having children now, we felt that we could still be prepared by doing genetic testing. I actually did my test through JScreen before our wedding. I won my test through the Jewish parenting website Kveller. Not all of their articles apply to me right now, there are great writers and really great content overall on that site. JScreen mailed me a full kit. I…
We had an exciting time this weekend since it was our first wedding as married people! Plus we got a side trip to the aquarium! It’s meant I’ve been spending a lot of time with my Jewish side. While I love them I think sometimes they forget we’re an interfaith couple. In the past, I would have taken this as a compliment, like I’m passing as the thing I want to be. But after everything we’ve been through I want to…
I’ve decided to invest more time into my writing and working on here. So as you can see Latkes and Lasagna got a little bit (ok a lot a bit) of a facelift! Thanks to Little Web Writing Hood for an absolutely fantastic look and help with everything! All my old blog posts will be migrating on over! I’m excited to continue on this journey! So get ready for some new posts and writing!…
I wrote previously about Finding Our Officiant. It was something that wasn’t with out struggle. Right now I have just 17 days left until I’m married. For a lot of reasons J and I had an engagement that has lasted over two years. And it’s good that we have. It gave us a lot of time to grow not just as a couple but as individuals as well. If it had only been a year I might have rushed into converting…
Today marks the sixth year that J and I have been together. Which is crazy to think about all that has changed in those six years We lived in LA and London (briefly for both of those) We graduated college We started working and settled in one place We bought a house! (That’s a very recent one) We’ve been to more than 30 weddings together all over the globe. Two siblings have gotten married We now have six total…
I’m a big fan of On Being Both, the blog by Susan Katz Miller. it’s helped me feel like my children aren’t going to hate me for choosing not to convert. Which is, shockingly, a real fear I have. I love reading other people’s interfaith stories. It’s amazing how what seems like a similar experience ends up so different for everyone. She wrote a great piece about the phrase intermarriage in Forward. I largely don’t take issue with non-Jew, but I know a…
With the mikvah postponed until our schedules matched I had time to think and I made a bigger decision than to convert. I decided to not finish my conversion. So close to the finish line, so close to finally being the same. Here’s the truth, the wedding suddenly was coming in under a year. And I started to think about all the changes that were expected of me as a wife. And suddenly, changing my last name to his AND changing…
It really happened because of a wedding invitation. It was beautiful. With their Hebrew names printed below their English ones and the script of Ani L’Dodi, v’Dodi Li on the top. I realized something in that. When J and I got married, I’d be taking that opportunity away from him. His childhood rabbi wouldn’t be able to perform the service, he’d never have his Hebrew name on his wedding invitation. And it was because of me. Since we had already found…